4. Her girls must achieve A grades and had to be the top studentin every sudject (aside from gym and drama).
Do I agree with her? Well Its a yes and no.
My essentials to parenting principles: 1. Setting Boundaries I have always maintain an openess in sharing my thoughts with the boys of what is and not acceptable, be it household rules, table manners, etc With setting boundaries, I also believe in planning and thinking.I spend lots of time speaking to my boys on why and how I do certain things. I filmly believe this process has to be slowly instilled and drilled from young.
2. Punishment Yes, I do believe in it. There is a cane in the house and there are many "naughty corners" :-) And my naughty corners cover places out of the house, to shopping centres and anywhere. Children they have to understand the severity of their actions and thoughts.
3. Models Do what you preach. It's hard but even on matters I do wrong I apologize and make up for it. Yes, in the house there's no "Mommy is always right.":-)
I rain praises and encouragement on the boys whenever something is done well. Especially on matters and things they had wronged earlier. I always remind them of the good feeling they experience whenever they are appreciated. It is opportunity like this when I spend time explaining why they were punished earlier. Personally I feel this works better for me.
I have learnt that children they aren’t born knowing how and why to behave well. They need to learn this skill, just like they learn to write or ride a bike. We are the most important teachers. It can be exhausting, and there are no quick-fixes or ways to skip these tough years. Teaching them these essential life skills,to me is more important than getting straight A's. :-)
I do have my frustrating times too when I wished I was the one banished to a naughty corner! Times like these, which happen mostly on holidays and weekends when we face them day to night, being their playmates, event planners, chauffeurs, coaches, pay masters, parents and most time helper too. And when situations go out of hands, thats where the daady comes in!
So do I rule my household with an iron fist? No I guess. I still need my sanity.
“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.” ― Anne Frank