How to get the young children these days to listen
March 24, 2016
Remember the cute chubby lovable toddler that hung lovingly on your every word and considered you her number-one best friend and confidant? Now she is ignoring you and transformed even the simplest request ("Please stop playing the computer" or "Put your socks in the laundry bag") into an exercise in mind-numbing repetition.
Seven- and 8-year-olds these days are experiencing an increasing sense of control over their own lives and have an opinion to everything.
Getting them to listen and follow simple instructions have turned into sessions of debates and sometimes arguements. I believe many parents out there can resonate with it!
Today Joanne (with her 3 children Brendon 11, Nikki 8 and Mikayla 6) and I (with my boys Shang 11 and Keyan 6) rounded up our kids to get them to listen and communicate with us. Click here to see the video : Minecraft Kids VS Adults Part 1
MAKE OUR PRESENCE KNOWN
Jo and I decided to bring the children out. So we put away all gadgets and bring them away from distractions.
Dedicate time, attention and focus on the children. A good 10 minutes to 30 minutes quality talk can achieve alot more than the repetitions of instructions.
LISTEN and don't sound like a broken record
It took abit of whining from the children before we finally leave the house.
Give specific instructions no more than twice, and be sure to follow through with appropriate disciplinary actions if he doesn't comply.
SET BOUNDARIES AND LIMITS
Allow them to understand and manage time. Setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely. They will learn to appreciate the time and experience too.
And we promise the children to talk about their interest in minecraft.
Make an effort to understand their world. Speak their language. Sometimes it's normal for them to behave the way they are because they are children. There's a child in all of us, play and have fun with them in their ways and it would be easily to relate our instructions to them.
Since the day I started sharing this space of mine with my boys, this journey has been very rewarding. Like this experence of understanding their interest in minecraft. I learn not to undermine this interest of theirs and to understand why they choose to take certain actions in the game. I choose to embrace it by keeping an eagle watch over them. Children will probably not remember anything that you say to them, but they will recall the family rituals -- like the fun times that have with you and games/movies nights -- that you do together.
Not all days are rosy though. On days when the boys are behaving like the worst devils on earth and no ones seems to hear me, I am thankful I have these girlfriends of mine ( Jo, Vv and Ange if you are reading this, kisses and loves to you dearies. Thanks for being here when I'm all auntyish and naggy! ) we give each other encouagement, an ear to rant and a shoulder to cry on.
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